September 02, 2022
Gary Owen | Divorce | Parental Alienation

Gary Owen talks about divorce, the over utilized & misunderstood word, "narcissist" & describes in his own words, parental alienation.


βœ‚οΈ Gary Owen talks about divorce, the over utilized & misunderstood word, "narcissist" & describes in his own words, parental alienation.

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Transcript

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My name is Vanessa. In today's podcast, video are going to be about Gary Owens divorce and his recent appearance on The Breakfast Club with Gary Owens is the standard end up comedian and he's very successful. He's a huge platform on YouTube, and he was very lightheartedly talking about his divorce that he went through, which of course, is not at all a lighthearted topic. Divorce is heavy and hard hitting and really awful for a lot of people and a lot of families. But Gary Owen brought a lot of humor and a lot of light to the situation, especially given what he'd gone through publicly, where he was talking about negative things being said about him in the media as a public figure and kind of how he had to brush that off and move forward. But some of the things I wanted to point out then actually posted a clip of the much longer interview. The clip was maybe 1 minute, and it was the thing that he was pointing out where he was describing what sounded like to me as parental alienation. And he was saying, this is what happened, and this was my experience. And he didn't use the words parental alienation. That's what he was describing. That's what it sounded like to me, someone who knows a thing or two about criminal alienation. He also talked about how the word narcissist was used in describing him. And, you know, he brushed it off as well, but he was talking about that a little bit as well. So I have a lot of different comments on this. The first one is the clip that I actually clip on YouTube from LinkedIn. I also believe on Twitter as well. So go check that out at Divorcing adults on Twitter on LinkedIn. You can find it there. So the thing about the term narcissist is it amazes me how overused and misused the term is. It's become something almost in popular culture, it seems like, where it's that common. I'm hearing it constantly. I'm seeing it constantly. I'm seeing people that are not licensed professionals in healthcare saying that they're experts in this area. And it's very harmful to casually throw around a mental health term. So there's something called Narcissistic personality disorder NPD. It is a part of a much larger group of mental health personality disorders, okay? It's one of multiple types of personality disorders. The DSM Diagnostic. Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, fifth edition. That is what is used in America to diagnose people with mental health disorders by licensed mental health clinicians of different types. I have had quite a lot of experience historically doing just that. So it really is troublesome when I see the casual use in casually throwing around heavy, hard hitting mental health terms, because the reality is, statistically speaking, there's only going to be a small group of people that meet the criteria for narcissistic personality disorder. NPD not everyone's going to have it. The truth is you I anyone can have traits of a, let's say narcissistic personality disorder traits or traits of another mental health condition, but not meet full diagnostic criteria, which is a very high threshold. Which is why statistically a very small percentage of people meet criteria for different types of mental health disorders, including but not limited to narcissistic personality disorder. NPD what people are really doing when they utilize terms in a way to insult someone that they don't like, that they no longer get along with, that they don't have a good relationship with, who may have somehow harm them or hurt their feelings in some other way, is they are further serving to stigmatize mental health illness in America. That's what's happening here. There's enough of a stigma around mental health as it is because people will go around and say, oh my ex, he's so terrible, she's so terrible. They've got a bad knee, a bad back. Nobody says that. Nobody says that as a way to insult someone because people would react like, okay, is that person okay? They got a bad knee. They had to have like a bad treatment for that. They got a bad back. They'd be more likely to have like empathy or sympathy or compassion. But when people throw around certain mental health terms, including but not only the two narcissists referring to the larger term that is widely misunderstood, the diagnosis, people are using it to shame someone and to further stigmatize mental health in America and it's wrong, it shouldn't be happening. And we need to get away from that as a society and move towards addressing the issues at hand, whatever they may be, in people's relationships and breakups that need to be dealt with instead of engaging in name calling and shaming people and stigmatizing already stigmatized mental health issues that are very real for some people. And there is no reason anyone should be ashamed of having a mental health concern at all. Just like no one should be ashamed of having a knee problem or a back problem like the examples I just gave back to Gary Owen. He briefly mentioned how, you know, his about the term narcissist. He briefly mentioned that in reference to himself and he also kind of went over the publicity that was negative towards him that he was reading about. He brought it up in a very comical way. So I encourage you to check out the clip, the snippets from the larger interview. It definitely was comical. And he also described something I would call pronoun alienation where he said that he hadn't had communication, remember correctly with his now adult children in over one year. In over one year. And he was saying he was very involved in their lives when he was married and in their activities in their school and that's what he was describing in their lives. Basically as children that he was a very good father, is what he was saying about himself. But he described that once he started going through the divorce with his now ex, that shifted, and he felt it was due to the divorce and very unhappy, as he described it was a nice way of putting what he said. He was not happy in the relationship, and since then his relationship with his children has not been what it once was. Gary Owen did a really great job of handling the publicity, so it sounds like it's pretty negative around his marriage. Also like to mention it was also lengthy marriage too. Or divorcing adults.com on your favorite podcasting platform on YouTube and Rumble. Follow on Twitter, LinkedIn and TikTok.